You are needed!
You likely have been aware of times when your parents appear to be overwhelmed and exhausted. During such periods, they may be less tolerant and more irritable. The stresses of a job, finances, errands, and keeping things going all add up. And then, your mom and/or dad must face daily family needs and obligations, which add to their daily efforts. You no doubt have been overwhelmed yourself on occasion and pressured to get everything done by the end of the day and, therefore, understand the feeling.
Here's a serious recommendation: Help your family out by reducing their stress. And you can do this in several ways, many of which are simple and easy to do.
First, develop the right attitude. Consider the demands your parents have at home and elsewhere. And think about the times you and your siblings have needs that result in added demands. This may have been for a variety of basics; for example, transportation, food, clothes, money, tech stuff, sports stuff, and so on. Reflect on what it takes for them to provide for the family’s needs: for example, money, skill, energy, and sacrificing their own time. That's standard for most parents trying to raise a family, but nonetheless, overwhelming. The above ideas are not to generate guilt, but rather to boost appreciation and respect for what it takes for a family to function.
So here is an important choice to consider: Do you want to be a giver or a taker? That is, do you want to help your parents reduce family stress, or do you want to add to it. Think about it. There are wonderful opportunities that are available to you.
If you are wondering if you are really needed by your parents, here are a few easy ways to check that out. Simply ask your mom or dad if it would be helpful if you did the dishes tonight, or cleaned the table or kitchen, or helped with the younger kids or did the wash. My hunch is that you will get a grateful, positive reaction from them. I also anticipate that you will feel good about your efforts.
Second, be aware of your skills and your ability to help. As a maturing individual, you are competent to do a variety of tasks related to the family’s needs. The examples are simple and numerous. Pick any category of daily activities: clothes, cleaning, washing, organizing, putting things up, putting things out, or helping siblings. Choose areas that directly reduce stress on your parents; for example, setting up for meals, cleaning up after meals, emptying the trash, washing and laying out your clothes. And do not forget to help them keep up with how to operate high-tech items.
Third, be an example to your siblings and enlist their help. If you have siblings, sell them on the need to work as a team to help the family. You will find that younger brothers and sisters will likely follow your lead. Fellowship with them as they help out and praise their efforts. Help them complete tasks that may be difficult: "Let me help you carry that trash out."
Fourth, be willing to donate your time when needed: "You go ahead mom, I'll be here and will watch the kids." If you are driving, you will find that simple trips to the grocery store will help, as well as transporting younger siblings. At times, you may want to free a parent from obligations: "Dad, I know you are tired, don't worry about missing the game tonight."
Finally, ask for your parent's feedback: "How can I make your day easier?" "What can I do to help out in the house?" “Can I help with their homework?" A positive response from your parents is guaranteed.
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